It is a busy Shavuat Ha’Ruach (Spirit Week) at the Ottawa Jewish Community School! We are so glad to be back at school – both in general, and after February Break – that there is lots of joy in the building; the added joy of Adar and Purim just makes it that much…er, joyful.
However, as is often the case in Jewish life where we weave moments of historical tragedy into even the most joyous of occasions (the breaking of glass at a wedding to remember the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem being the most well-known example), this Purim carries with it not just the echoes of past tragedy, but current tragedy as well. Purim was, for most of us, the last holiday we celebrated before COVID and, thus, likely the last opportunity to be together in groups, in synagogues, in community, etc., that we have had. That was certainly true here. Last Purim in Ottawa was actually ground zero for the first potential exposure we experienced as a community and within days we had shut down and settled in for the great unknown of lockdowns and distance learning.
And so here we are one Jewish Year later…
As Zoomed out as most of us are, as hard as it has been for every organization, school, synagogue and institution to provide meaningful and engaging programming over the last year, it is equal parts depressing and inspiring to look back at what we have collectively accomplished and experienced together. Each event, each milestone and each holiday that we have been forced to reimagine stretches from last Purim to this one in a chain of creative reinterpretations. I mourn what was lost and celebrate what was gained, like everyone else.
How might that inform our celebration of Purim tonight and Friday?
Too often as parents we treat Judaism the same way we treat Disneyland – as something that we sacrifice for in order to give our children an “experience”. We scrimp and we save and we sweat in line so that our children can go on Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride. We also scrimp and save and sweat over paperwork so that our children can receive a Jewish education and go to camp and have a bar/bat mitzvah. But what about us?
Maybe this year, not in spite, but because we are home with our families, we can take our turn on Mr. Mordechai’s Wild Ride?
Purim is a holiday of reversals and opposites, of mask-wearing and mask-shedding. You can be anyone you wish in service of being your truest self. If you think that wearing a costume is childish, what do you have to lose this year? You can wear a costume like nobody’s watching…because no one is! If you are typically shy about booing Haman with all your gusto in a crowd, this is your year. You can boo Haman like nobody’s listening…because no one is! If you are someone who likes to indulge a bit on Purim, you can drink like no one is driving…because no one is. You get the idea.
Virtual Purim means that it has never been more comfortable to make yourself uncomfortable. Take advantage of the opportunity to do something silly as a family tonight and tomorrow. Not only should you not let your children have all the fun, your silliness makes a very serious statement about what it means to be Jewish – every year, but especially this one.
From my family to yours…chag Purim sameach & a freilichen Purim!